How To Use the Confetti Effect to Influence, Lead Change, and Win People Over
Leadership: You Get What You Give
Ihave always been fascinated by the differences in how leaders lead. Whether we are looking at the leaders of countries, cities, teams, or even families, there are many different styles of leadership that all emanate from the personal energy of the leader. Having researched and read a bit on leaders and leadership, I believe that if there is any one secret to POSITIVE leadership, it lies in the leader’s ability to understand and appreciate the PERSPECTIVE OF OTHERS.
When it comes down to it, we are all leaders. Whether we run a business, a meeting, a family or just ourselves, we all make decisions everyday that impact not just our own lives but the lives of those surrounding us, at home, at work and in the world around us. Do you ever wonder what other people think of you as a leader?
How we conduct ourselves in our daily interactions will tell us about our leadership style. Whether you are annoyed, impatient or irritated, you are telling people who you are as a leader because you remain in that state and project it out to the world, whether you are aware of it or not. The same is true from the opposite perspective whether you are happy, grateful or content. You radiate this energy or aura out into the universe. What you may or may not realize is that the energy that you put out into the universe multiplies as it is received and processed by others. The chemistry of emitting personal energy in the world is definitely not a net zero reaction. The energy you put out will either produce a negative or positive result. The ‘Ah Ha’ moment is achieved once we realize that we, as leaders, choose the energy we want to emit.
When we can choose to be a POSITIVE influence, our LEADERSHIP style and relationships improve dramatically. YOU may not classify yourself as a leader, but you are. The energy that you produce is vital…..it sets the tone. I truly believe you can be a positive influence force in all types of situations. Over the past couple years, I have practiced the following six CONFETTI 🔸🔺🔹 tactics (as I like to call them 🙌🏻) in my home, workplace, and social settings. My hope is that you can use them to evoke influence on yourself and others to instill better leadership, communication, connections, empathy, and to live your best life. Are you ready? Here we go.
1.) Do Not React. Respond. 🔺🔹🔸
Response instead of reaction means you take the emotional charge out of the situation or problem. Pausing to take time to think gives you a chance to respond instead. When someone says something negative about you, immediately you want to rush to give a stinging reply or complain to others. Haven’t we all been in this same situation? Stop to be PROACTIVE and to regain your composure and objectivity before you reply.
2.) Know the Difference between Flattery and Appreciation. 🔹🔸🔻
Flattery is insincere. It is telling the other person precisely what he/she thinks about himself/herself. It is cheap praise. Appreciation is the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something. It is a sincere and unselfish way to let people know they are cherished, admired, treasured, and highly valued. Honest appreciation will get you results everytime where ridicule and criticism will fail. Appreciation and encouragement arouse enthusiasm and positivity in others.
3.) Listen. Listen. Listen. 🔸🔺🔹
Listening is the key to effective communication but even when we are trying to listen, we often fail. Why? Instead of waiting until the other person finishes speaking we are way too busy waiting to respond to what’s on our mind. THIS ISN’T REALLY LISTENING. Paying attention to others will not only help to understand their point of view, but is also the key to developing relationships based on trust.
4.) Live Your Life As An Example. 🔹🔻🔸
WALK THAT TALK or act on your speech. Live your life as an example of what you believe; be genuine, be human, be real, be enthusiastic and you will win people over. Life isn’t easy (that’s for sure) but if you can wake up every morning putting your thoughts into actions this will help to influence others to do the same. Remember, you won’t win everyone over so make sure you don’t die trying. Just rise up and move on. Never focus on the lowest common denominator because you will always run across the people that will try to bring you down.
5.) Forgive Don’t Fester. 🔸🔻🔹
The moment you decide to forgive and let your negative feelings melt away, you are on the path to FREEDOM. Forgiveness is all about taking care of YOU, not the person you need to forgive. It’s putting your desire to feel good before your desire to be right. It’s about owning your power by giving all your resentment, anger, and hurt the heave-ho. Kick all your negativity to the curb. Holding on to resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die. Remember, when you forgive someone you let yourself off the hook….it’s about being nice to yourself.
6.) Choose To Be Kind. 🔻🔹🔸
Your actions have a bigger impact than you might realize. That’s why I truly believe the secret to a successful, fulfilling life is quite simple. Apply kindness to all situations whether in business, social or family situations. Kindness is contagious, rewarding, it can improve our quality of life, reduce stress, increase our happiness factor, and bring people together.
“Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, how you leave others feeling after having an experience with you becomes your trademark.” Jay Danzie
